Coaching
for Individuals & Couples
Finding love and hot sex can be a lonely puzzle. Let’s solve it together.
My support is like Roadside Assistance for the tender soul. I will help free you from the stuck places and get you rolling toward the love & sex that is your absolute birthright.
Are we a good match for Sex, Intimacy & Relationship Coaching? Let’s find out…
Answer the questions below to help determine the potential value in working with me:
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Has sex become routine or is your sexuality flatlining?
Do you often live in your head during sex and feel disconnected from your body?
Do you have difficulty talking about sex with your partner(s)?
Do you prioritize a sexual partner’s needs and desires over your own?
Is shame keeping you from owning your desires, kinks & fetishes?
Is past trauma preventing you from truly enjoying sex?
Do you ejaculate too quickly?
Do you have trouble maintaining an erection?
Does your heart disengage in sexual situations?
Has body shame become psychologically debilitating?
Do you want feedback about what you are doing (consciously or unconsciously) that attracts or repels others?
Do you measure good sex by the pornography you have seen?
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Are you frustrated looking for love and wonder why it’s so elusive?
Is your dating life getting you down or do you simply wish you had a dating life?
Is casual sex leaving you feeling empty?
Does intimacy with others scare you or are you simply unskilled fostering it?
Is shyness or social anxiety keeping you from meeting others and flirting with those you find attractive?
Do you experience rejection after first encounters and wish to uncover blindspots?
Do you often overthink your way through life and have trouble knowing how you actually feel?
Do you wish you had more friends and lovers?
Do friends call you “aloof?”
Do you have difficulty asking for the things you want in (and out) of the bedroom?
Do you have difficulty saying “no” to the things you don’t want in (and out) of the bedroom?
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Are you lonely & seeking a relationship but feel unloveable and like you lack "game?”
Are you scared of “going deep” with others and instead jump from one relationship to the next?
Is your partnership no longer a source of joy and satisfaction?
Do you feel stuck in a sexless relationship?
Is your heteronormative relationship leaving your needs & desires unfulfilled?
Do you wish you had a larger friend group?
Do potential love interests call you “too intense?”
Do you have trouble showing up fully and vulnerably with others?
Do you know how to flirt?
Do you have difficulty talking about your feelings?
A modern approach that moves beyond traditional “Therapy”
Everyday I help clients with the issues listed above and so much more. We discover and learn to own desire while figuring out ways to ask—unapologetically—for the things we want. We learn to say NO to the things we don’t want. We practice intimacy skills together and explore the power of vulnerability—because without it, intimacy simply cannot exist. We uncover shame and bid it a fond farewell.
As a graduate of the Somatica Method, I offer guidance as a highly-intuitive coach, utilizing somatic embodiment techniques in a liberating, often-arousing, shame-free environment.
My work allows clients to own their true desires while dissolving the blocks that keep fulfillment out of reach. They become empowered to own their birthright for bountiful love, hot sex, nurturing intimacy and dynamic relationships.
I specialize in dating challenges, social anxiety, fear of intimacy, body shame, online dating traps, self-judgement, relationship stressors, sexual orientation, performance challenges, non-heteronormative relationships and so much more.
For many of us, these issues have only been exacerbated by the pandemic, giving us all the more reason to feel frustrated, lonely, disappointed, grief-stricken, angry and scared. If not careful, our fears and unsatisfied longings can steer us into true despair.
One thing important to know is this: you do not have to go it alone.
Subsisting in emotional isolation and alienation is far too common in our culture today—especially for men. It has become second nature for many of us to feel separate from society, unloved and unworthy. Fortunately, we can rewrite that narrative starting right now. Love and support are available. If in need, please find it—from me, or any practitioner suitable for the task.
“Time booked with Fudo is time well spent for mind, body and soul. Fudo is a true healer. Our sessions allowed me to connect to a natural energy and sense of self I haven’t felt in a while. He is light, warm, uplifting and respectful. Simply put, the best.
— John, Baltimore, Maryland
WHAT TO EXPECT
All Zoom sessions are 60 minutes. We may run over at times at no extra cost to you. (In person sessions are available should we be in the same city.)
We will cultivate a relationship by practicing vulnerability via two-way sharing about our lives, feelings and experiences.
We will take the necessary time to slow down, distill our emotional truths and share them with each other.
We will engage in games, exercises and somatic inquiry to gain insight into blocks keeping us from fulfilling our desires.
We will stay open to exploring arousal energy between us. (Boundaries, built into the method, will be discussed if/when they are reached.)
We will practice deshamification to uncover the conscious and unconscious places where shame holds us back. We will come to understand how shame has served us and work to move beyond it.
If conflicts arise between us (which can be a great thing!), we will take defined steps to repair our relationship.
We will love and support the emotional needs of each other to the best of our abilities.